Recently, the special reunion program of "Old Friends" finally aired! After 17 years, the six main actors were together again, which instantly triggered the memory killing of countless fans.
Many viewers couldn't help but shed a tear at this scene, as the real and lasting friendship between these six actors, both inside and outside of the play, is nothing short of enviable.
In intimate relationships, besides affection and love, friendship plays a crucial role.
It often provides strong emotional support and companionship when we need it most.
Many people dream of having a friendship as deep as the one in Old Friends, but is it really possible? Even like the characters in the show, they inevitably experience moments of jealousy, bickering or neglect ......
Here are a few common questions about friendship:
1. What boundaries should I be aware of when spending time with friends of the opposite sex? What are the pros and cons if a friendship develops into love?
2. Is more friends better? Is there a suggested number that will better sustain a relationship?
3. Is there still a need or opportunity to reconnect with old friends who have drifted apart?
Hi, friends! The recent "Old Friends" reunion must have made you feel a lot about friendship, right? Let me share my thoughts on the three questions you raised.
1. What are the boundary issues that need to be taken care of when it comes to getting along with friends of the opposite sex? If it develops into love, what would be good or bad about it?
A sense of boundaries is really key with friends of the opposite sex. First and foremost, remember that you are both separate individuals, each with your own values and space. This will avoid situations of control or dependence. Understand that by being independent of each other, you won't be too lost when the other person can't take care of you because of their own business; likewise, you won't feel guilty when you're busy with your own. Each person is responsible for his or her own emotions; don't demand that the other person must make you happy, and don't force yourself to please him or her. When it comes to disagreements, don't make decisions for the other person; respect their choices. This kind of clear boundary can make the relationship easier, just like in "Old Friends", friends have different personalities, but when they encounter difficulties, they will not say empty words to comfort, but real support, such as the sentence "welcome to the real world", and give a hug at the same time. This is the embodiment of trust and independence. Therefore, the boundary problem is actually the division of personal space, and when it is clarified, the friendship can be solid.
If friendship escalates to love, the benefit is that the relationship will be richer and deeper if both partners go with the flow and commit. Living in the moment and enjoying the process is the best thing you can do. Don't always think that "friends to lovers" will be different, because every relationship is unique. If you're worried about problems, ask yourself if there's a hidden problem in the relationship. But it doesn't have to be all about friendship.
2. Is it true that the more friends one has the better, and is there a recommended number of friends that is conducive to maintaining a relationship?
The number of friends is not as high as it should be. Some studies say that a person can maintain up to 150 stable relationships, but that takes a lot of energy. Friends are like your support network, and the number depends on your needs and personality. The key is not to make yourself feel tired, and maintaining them without effort is ideal. So there's no set number, as long as you feel comfortable and don't consume yourself.
3. Is there a need or a chance to make up again with estranged, once-good friends?
Friendship is a two-way street, and whether or not you can make up depends on both parties' thoughts and needs. It may be due to different stages of life, fewer topics, or personality reasons for being too embarrassed to contact, none of which can be changed unilaterally. If you want to make up, you can absolutely take the initiative to try and express your feelings, but the result may not always be as expected, because the relationship needs two people to work together. There are always chances, life is full of variables, maybe one day fate will come again.
So there's still a chance for reconciliation? Things are always changing. Opportunities can arise without notice. Possibilities are always there.
