How to make friends when you still don't have many friends at school in your third year of college? ,
I'm a junior now, and I don't seem to have made any particularly strong buddies or girlfriends over the last few years of college.
I'm rather introverted and a bit slow to warm up. Recently, I realized that one of my friends is particularly close to a classmate with whom I'm not so close, probably because that classmate is better in all aspects.
I've also tried to leave the person I don't get along with alone, but the other person seems to have a problem with me all the time.
I really haven't done anything wrong to her, I just didn't see eye to eye with each other before! I've mentioned to my friends that I'm not on good terms with her, but they continue to be close to her regardless of whether I'm there or not.
I told him about the girl who treated me badly before, and my friend said, "Why is she like that?", but then he went back to talking and playing with her.
Suddenly I felt as if I had lost this friend and was particularly lonely.
It's not like I can cut my friends off because of this, after all, I don't have many friends in the first place.
So now I really don't know what to do?
Hi, classmate. - Hello!
I can especially understand how you feel right now, and I'm giving you a warm hug.
You can't force yourself to make friends. Everyone has the right to choose who they want to be friends with, and we have to respect that.
Sometimes ah, it's easy to take the bull by the horns when we pay too much attention to someone, whether it's a friend or a favorite.
Unconsciously, you may feel possessive and want the other person to play only with you. But in fact, other people are free to make friends, we should not interfere too much. What we can do is to cherish the relationship we want to maintain.
It's normal that many of our friends can actually only walk with us for a short time.
If you want to make new friends, you can start by looking at what you like to do and what your goals are. Then look for like-minded people in your circle of interest. For example, if you like to read, go to the library more often, and there will be people there who also like to read and can be friends.
Never drag a non-reading friend with you to the library or give up your own hobbies to cater to someone else.
It's also important to make yourself better. When a person is truly confident, they will not be overly dependent on a particular relationship because the TA can get fulfillment from other sources.
Go for it!
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