Hi, I'm 22 years old and I'm often afraid to initiate conversations and exchanges with others.
I'm even afraid to go out alone, and I have to have a friend with me every time to feel at ease. I'm very concerned about other people's opinions, and I can ponder over and over again for a whole night just because of what they say. I don't have enough self-confidence, and I always have an inferiority complex. When strangers talk to me, I get stuck instantly and don't know how to respond. How can I get out of this predicament?
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Communication is essential in life. Whether it is for study, work or daily socializing, we have to learn to express ourselves, especially when we enter the society in the future, communication skills will be more important.
So let's take a look and see what we can do to slowly improve.
First of all, as you mentioned, lack of self-confidence is the core problem. Confidence actually stems from within, and only when we are truly strong within will our words and actions become naturally subdued.
The first way to boost your confidence is to build up more knowledge so that you are equipped to handle all kinds of conversations. For example, read more books or pay attention to some topics so you'll be more comfortable picking up conversations when others are talking.
The second method is to express yourself bravely, don't panic, and slowly practice putting your thoughts into words. You can start with familiar friends and then gradually try to communicate with people you don't know very well, step by step.
The third point, pay attention to the body posture, head up and chest, speak slower and clearer logic. These small habits need to remind themselves on a daily basis, adhere to the effect will be very obvious.
Change doesn't happen overnight, you have to take your time and stick with it. Give yourself some positive reinforcement, such as telling yourself "I can do it" every day. When you first start practicing communication, you may be nervous or have trouble expressing yourself, but you will get better at it after a few more tries.
Regarding low self-esteem, the main thing is that you are too concerned about what other people think of your shortcomings, and you feel that you are not as good as others. This is normal, in fact, low self-esteem is often associated with low self-confidence, and when your self-confidence is improved, low self-esteem will naturally reduce. Cheer up!
In life, don't take other people's opinions too seriously. Saying the wrong thing or not thinking clearly is human, so you don't have to feel ashamed or that you've made a big mistake. Most people won't laugh at you, so just keep your mind open and communicate.
Of course, taking the first step is always the hardest thing to do, but if you're brave enough to try, it gets easier and easier later on. Alone time is also important, so start small and I'm sure your efforts will make a difference.
Way to go 😊 I hope these tips help!
Be brave and take action, come on 😊
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