I've been feeling particularly aggrieved.
I think it was my parents' choices that changed my life forever.
Although my parents gave me life
But there was not a single day in this world that I was truly happy, they didn't seem to care about my happiness and only wanted me to work early to support them
I was forced to start working when others were still in school, they didn't give me the chance to pursue a bigger future, they only expected me to make money for them to spend
I don't know how to get along with people in the society, I am often bullied, but I don't know who to talk to, because even my parents beat me up, I always ask myself, why do I have to put up with this every day? I always ask myself, why do I have to put up with this every day? Do I really have no good qualities at all?
I feel very inferior, I feel that I can't get the love I want in my life or live an ideal life, am I asking too much? Should I lower my standards to the lowest possible level, so low that just being alive and able to breathe is enough?
Every day is like an ordeal, and I don't even understand why I came to this world. I was bound by all the rules of the world - such as the difference between beauty and ugliness, the difference in education, the pressure of kinship - and felt that I wasn't free physically or mentally.
My friend, it is really not easy for you. The fact that you came to the platform to ask a question in such a difficult situation shows that you have taken an important step, which is very brave.
Allowing yourself to resent your parents does involve dealing with the pressures of traditional attitudes; after all, society often emphasizes the collective, and personal feelings are easily ignored. But please know that we are concerned with psychological growth here, and that society is changing, and more and more people are beginning to value personal feelings.
I hope that while you see the resentment toward your parents, you also find the strength to grow from your suffering and the hope for the future.
If our parents treat parenting as a trade off and we don't get unconditional love, maybe think of it in a different way: parents are ordinary people too, and they may have been influenced by their own families of origin. It may be difficult to change them, but we can improve ourselves by learning to communicate.
That said, adjusting yourself after expressing your emotions is the next step, which is the beginning of the journey towards independence and growth. It may take a lifetime, but every step counts.
Since the Q&A is short, I'll simply suggest: you can heal your heart by reading books (such as Adler's Inferiority and Beyond), making friends, and building self-confidence. Accept yourself first and grow slowly. If needed, try a psychology program.
These are my thoughts, remember, you deserve to be loved. Feel free to like and follow if you feel inspired.
