Many people suffer from a similar affliction: difficulty concentrating, along with a particular fear of being alone. Once alone, bad memories or feelings of despair keep coming back, so these painful emotions have to be suppressed through social activities or recreation.
What's the cause of this?
Hello, Mr. Owner!
Fear of being alone is often due to the great emptiness and void you feel inside; your inability to face up to the shock of fear and the fear of facing the painful memories of the past alone reflects a weaker ego. Therefore, you will rely on external people and things to paralyze yourself, to fill the inner hole, to escape loneliness and fear. But no one can be with you all the time, and when you are finally alone, the emptiness is even stronger, and your heart is still not truly soothed and nourished.
Do you feel the same way?
It may be that you have experienced a number of painful events in your past life that have resulted in delayed healing of psychological wounds. While it is common practice to avoid thinking about these things, the true way to heal your inner wounds and allow you to grow and gain wisdom from your pain - is precisely to face it with courage.
I recommend you to read Pema's books such as "When Life is Stuck Weak: The Wisdom of Living with Adversity". It is mentioned in the book that everyone is essentially independent and unsupported. The greatest suffering is not the event itself, but the desire to escape the inner pain by relying on external things, hoping to have a dependency, which often turns out to be empty.
The true method of healing and liberation is to be at peace with the emotion of fear, accepting the wounded state, not rushing into action, but simply experiencing, feeling and realizing. From this pain, you can realize the wisdom of life, discover inner resources, and find the strength to support yourself.
Learning to be alone and looking inward for answers may be a more effective solution.
Next time you feel fear, try doing nothing but quietly observing the emotions come and go without judgment or resistance. You can try it~
