As the title suggests: I would like to understand what exactly to do about defensiveness among family members.
Hello, friend! I'm so glad I'm here to talk to you.
☀️ You mentioned that there is defensiveness among family members and wondered what to do about it. Was your heart a little heavy when you brought this up? Did it feel like a sense of powerlessness?
☀️ Everyone's coping styles are heavily influenced by their upbringing. When you talk about family defensiveness, do you mean specifically between parents, between husband and wife, or between you and your parents or siblings?
☀️ Since it's not clear which family member you're referring to specifically, my answer may not be specific enough to offer anything more than generic advice.
☀️ What specifically do you mean by "family defensiveness"? Is it miscommunication, financial wariness, or hostility and fear of being hurt that keeps them away from each other?
☀️ How does this defensiveness bother you? Is it a lack of security or disappointment in your family or partner? How have you coped with it before? And what prompted you to ask the question?
☀️ friend, family relationships seem simple but are complex. I'm sure you've built up a number of ways to get along, so it's good to reflect on what works and what doesn't, and apply more effective strategies in the future. In this environment, you can't force others to change because they may not see it as a problem. So the key to breaking the ice lies in your own heightened growth.
Well, I'm "I'm Please Speak" and my response is meant to provide a perspective that I hope will help you.
