When I was a kid, I super admired my sister and thought she was like a hero. When I grew up, I relied on her more and wanted to share everything with her. But my sister doesn't seem to want me to get too close to her, although she definitely loves me, maybe because we're not very good at expressing our feelings.
Hi, how are you? First of all, I'll give you a big hug through the air. I'm so glad to see you reaching out for help, and I hope what I've shared has given you some warmth and help. It's really amazing that you recognized your emotional attachment to your sister and came forward for advice, kudos to you!
When you realize that as you grow older, your sister gradually distances herself from you, which makes you feel left out, unappreciated, aggrieved and powerless, what should you do? The best way is to be brave and sincerely tell your sister your true feelings and needs. Let her understand that her unintentional estrangement is making it hard for you, and how you want her to treat you.
Only when you are timely and honest about your needs and feelings can your sister respond to you in the way you expect. Wouldn't you say so?
If you are an adult now, what you can do is learn to take care of yourself the way your sister used to take care of you, through self-growth. You can no longer put all of your need to be cared for on your sister, because she has to deal with her own emotions and life chores before she has the energy to fulfill you. Otherwise, she may not be able to do so.
Now that you are older, you have the ability to treat yourself the way you want to be treated, if you want to. And, no one can fulfill your expectations all the time, and no one knows you better than you do, except you.
As an adult today, you can no longer ask your sister to spoil you like she did when you were a child. Sister used to treat you well more because she was older and wanted to protect and love you. Now you have the ability to take care of yourself and love yourself. If you still always think of your sister treating you like she did in the past, it may mean that your mind is not independent enough.
I'm Lilly, the little ear of the Answer House. The world and I love you.
