I used to have a serious acne problem, and now my face is left with a lot of acne pits, and I am depressed every day, with a strong sense of low self-esteem, which seriously interferes with my daily life and social interactions.
What should I do if I even have light thoughts?
Many people think that acne pits can't be cured at all, but that's not absolutely true.
Hello, friend!
A warm hug to you first! I can feel the acne pits causing you a lot of stress.
It's hard not to be sad when you face yourself in the mirror, so you may want to give yourself some comfort first.
I'd be happy to talk about this with you.
1. First, face up to your emotions and understand the root cause of low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem is actually a part of human nature, and almost everyone feels it at one time or another.
It can be said that low self-esteem grows with us like a shadow.
For example, some people with outstanding appearance may not feel confident when they meet someone better.
"Inferiority complexes usually refer to individuals who despise themselves for their physical and mental deficiencies and compensate in various ways, such as striving for advancement or avoidance."
Some people have low self-esteem because of their looks, others because of their lack of ability, and still others are bothered by height issues, and so on.
Does your mind relax a bit when you realize that low self-esteem is common?
2. The problem itself is not the key, it is how we look at it.
The spotlight effect in psychology tells us that people tend to overestimate how much attention others pay to them and always feel that all eyes are on them.
We're always worried about pimples being stared at by others, but really people are more concerned about themselves.
It's true that acne pimples may affect your appearance, but think about it, would loved ones and friends alienate you because of it?
Pimple pits may leave an impression when you first meet, but after a deeper relationship, people usually overlook these small details.
So try to look at acne pits anew, don't strive for perfection, take your time to accept your imperfect self and changes will creep in.
3. Broaden your horizons and see a wider life.
Like the psychologist Adler, who was frail and short as a child, he also had deeply low self-esteem.
But he went on to become a guru by writing Inferiority and Beyond, which argues that people have an innate drive to transcend their inferiority and strive for excellence.
Adler points out that low self-esteem and feelings of superiority work together to propel us forward.
We can focus more on our strengths and play to our strengths instead of always dwelling on what we're not happy with.
I recommend you read the book "Know Thyself, Accept Thyself" for possible inspiration.
4. Live your unique self and embrace life.
If acne pits are viewed as a problem, it will only cause pain.
But we can look at it differently and see it as one of the personal characteristics.
Acne pimples are just a part of you, they don't represent all of you.
Try to make peace with it.
Think about Jack Ma. He was teased about his appearance and hit a wall in his job search, but that didn't stop him from succeeding.
I hope you will be brave enough to be yourself and live your life to the fullest!
Truly bless you!
