My ex-boyfriend and I were in a relationship for three years, and the foundation of our relationship was always pretty solid.
We had a fight at the end of April (I started it) and he said since you want to break up then let's do it, then later said he needed some quiet time.
At first he was answering his phone and replying to tweets, but then he didn't reply to any messages at all, I think he decided to break up, so I didn't contact him again (it's been almost a month since we broke up).
On May 25th he posted a very sad friend circle, I was so worried that I messaged him to ask if he was ok and he replied that he hoped I was ok too.
On the 27th he suddenly sent me a message, also video sent a picture like the previous confession, asked me if I had told my friends or family about us, what did I say, did I say quarrel or break up? What was their reaction? I didn't expect him to contact me at all and asked him why and he said: it's not because he's worried about you.
It's been almost a month since we broke up, is he trying to make up? Or is he just pitying me? Then why didn't he answer my messages yesterday? What is his real intention? He is in the city of the epidemic is repeated, he is very busy, but I do not know exactly how busy, after all, separated for a period of time.
What should I do? I want to get back together with him but I don't know what to say or do or what I can do.
I'm afraid to reach out and send him a video because I don't even reply to tweets.
Hello dear owner, how are you? I'm glad to meet you here.
Seeing your message, I can feel that you are especially lost and helpless right now, and I really want to give you a warm hug and hope that you can gain some strength from it.
😘 First, let's take a brief look at the timeline:
A month or so ago, you mentioned breaking up because of an argument and the other person agreed.
You are a little hesitant after mentioning a breakup and the other person is vague. You are in an up and down mood and have thoughts of making up.
That's the general process, right?
Well, knowing this, we can take our time and analyze what is not so clear about the process and what you need to clarify with yourself.
🧚🏻♀️ First, what was the reason for the fight and breakup in the first place? I don't think the conflict itself is scary, what's scary is not being clear about why you're fighting.
And with no review or communication of points of conflict after a fight, how do you now see the possibility of the relationship continuing?
Simply put, what is the purpose of a fight?
🧚🏻♀️ Secondly, you are now stuck in a cycle of being centered on his mind and emotions. All the time guessing why he's sending you pictures and why he's trying to cause you reverie, right?
From beginning to end, we have not come back to the fundamental question: did you break up because you were angry, or did you think it through?
From the point of you wanting to get back together alone, it feels like you're acting a bit impulsively.
🧚🏻♀️ Third, from a guy's point of view, if his girlfriend mentions a breakup, his first reaction will be to assume that you made a rational decision. A breakup is a hurtful experience for anyone, and can strike at the sense of self-worth.
His motivation for posting those sweet memories was more of a test.
It's to test whether or not you still have a place in your heart, and essentially it could be to see if you still have feelings for each other.
