Many people like you have a beautiful appearance and a good body, but inside often feel inferior, always feel that they can not catch up with others in what they do, lack of that firm sense of self-confidence.
Hello, friend!
I can sense that you are probably a pretty hard on yourself, always picking at your own thorns while ignoring your own sparkle. Regardless of what you've been through in the past, a warm hug to you first!
First of all, while inner beauty is important, outer strengths are also your capital. You're well aware that you stand out on the outside, but that doesn't translate into confidence. In fact, people are naturally more likely to be attracted to good-looking people, so it's a good idea to be open to other people's admiration and use that as a starting point for boosting your confidence.
Second, learn to truly appreciate and accept yourself. You already have obvious advantages, but it is easy to turn a blind eye, always focusing on the so-called "shortcomings". In fact, everyone has strengths and weaknesses, the key to look at the scene - a different perspective, shortcomings may become features, advantages can also be amplified in different occasions.
Thirdly, adjust the mindset of comparison and jump out of the inherent evaluation framework. When we get along with people, it is inevitable that we will compare ourselves, especially when we meet someone who is excellent, it is easier to feel inferior. Try a different mindset: instead of simply comparing who is better, discover what makes each person unique. Learn to praise yourself and others for what makes you different, and your feelings of inferiority will naturally diminish.
Fourth, the correct view of low self-esteem. Psychologist Adler said that low self-esteem is actually inherent in human beings. When we were young and dependent on others, the feeling of powerlessness arises naturally; when we grow up, it is still latent, and may emerge as soon as we are stimulated. But low self-esteem is not a bad thing, accept it, use it, but can push us to work hard to progress, and constantly beyond the self.
When you start accepting yourself wholeheartedly, everything you do will feel taken for granted, and that strong sense of conviction is born.
