The family is particularly serious about trivial matters, such as forgetting to pull the curtains at night, they can say endlessly, making the family all day resentment, the atmosphere is so depressing that people can not breathe.
My dad always talks about his body hurting here and there, and his relatives and family members always say that he works hard and tell me to save money. I know it's not easy for him to sleep on the night shift, but sometimes I can't stand it, even turning on the light is said to be a waste of electricity. The weekly living expenses are delayed for a long time, and sometimes I have to threaten them with not going to school before they will pay. Sometimes I had to threaten to stop going to school before they would pay. They wouldn't give me any money for extra expenses except for basic meals, and when I came home, they would push me to go to work. They are obviously mean to me, but they always say how nice they are to me and accuse me of spending money recklessly. What's even more annoying is that every time they do something for me, they tell people about it, as if I'm ungrateful.
My family members are moody, they hold on to the smallest things and vent negative emotions all the time. I have bipolar disorder, and when I was in a better state, I got a headache and upset when they tossed me around. But sometimes they suddenly become friendly again, as if they feel guilty, but the next day they are back to their old ways. Also, it's especially disappointing when mom and dad always fail to deliver on their promises.
Hello friend!
🍀 Hugs to you first! From what you've said, the nagging from your family is indeed exhausting, it's getting to be a family affair.
🍀 In fact, behind parents' chatter is often their own venting of life's stresses. It is a common psychological reaction for them to invariably transfer their unfulfilled desires or dissatisfaction to their children. When parents are dissatisfied with their own situation, they tend to take it out on their children, feeling that their children are an extension of them, and as a result, their emotions get out of control and they speak without a trace.
🍀 You can also sympathize with your parents' hard work, but can't stand their hot and cold attitude. This is actually their habitual thinking when dealing with problems - they find excuses to blame others when they are in trouble, and their children become the most convenient punching bag, while they turn a blind eye to their own problems.
🍀From your description, your family's financial situation is average, and although they are bursting with negative energy, they probably don't mean to be harsh, but want you to understand that money is not easy to come by. I had a similar experience, going to high school in the county, dozens of miles from home, and having to go back every week to get my living expenses.
🍀Mom always gives me crumpled money that they save from their teeth. When I'm not at home, they can't even afford to eat eggs, they leave it all to me for my living expenses, saying that I need to replenish my body for the hard work I do in school (of the three kids in my family, I'm the only one with a weak constitution).
🍀 Then I talked to the cafeteria aunty about working for an hour every day at noon and in the evening in exchange for two free meals. She didn't agree the first time, and the second time the homeroom teacher helped me out before I succeeded.
🍀Mom found out that I had saved money and asked for the source I was afraid to tell and got a beating. From then on, I was forced to copy the Daughter's Sutra every week. I didn't tell her the truth until I went to college, and my mom hugged me and cried all afternoon.
🍀Actually, parents all over the world love their children, they just express it in different ways and have limited abilities. When I was a child, I didn't understand their difficulties, but only when I grew up did I deeply understand.
🍀 All the best to you!
