The child is about to enter his senior year of high school, since the first semester of high school is addicted to Japanese anime, he is completely addicted to collect a lot of comic books, magazines and posters, and he is bent on going to Japan to study at university, so he does not want to take the college entrance examination, but unfortunately he always lacks the perseverance to stick to it.
He took the initiative to learn TOEFL on his own, but after taking the test a few times he found it too difficult and gave up halfway, and the same thing happened with learning Japanese, which was always a three-minute rush and difficult to sustain.
Now every night to play with the phone to more than three o'clock in the morning, the morning simply can not get up, simply skipped school not to go to class, and then continue to play during the day after enough sleep, completely caught in a vicious circle.
Hello parents, I am Mr. Fish, and I can especially appreciate your anxiety and worry at this moment.
1. The child wants to study in Japan because he loves Japanese comics, which is actually a good thing, showing that he has his own dream and direction. Although he can't stick to TOEFL and Japanese because he doesn't have enough perseverance, don't be quick to criticize your child. Adolescent children's self-control is still growing, so they need to be guided slowly.
2. The bad habit of children staying up late to play with their cell phones and catching up on sleep during the day is essentially a matter of self-control, but self-control can be improved through daily practice. We can discuss with the child to develop a regular schedule, such as a fixed time at night must turn off the phone to sleep, the morning with an alarm clock to force wake up. It may be a little difficult at first, but if you stick to it, good habits will naturally develop.
3. For children who give up easily in their studies, use more encouragement instead of blame. When your child makes a little progress in TOEFL or Japanese, give him a timely affirmation, take him to eat a big meal or give him a small reward, so that he can feel that there are rewards for his efforts. At the same time, set some small goals that are easy to achieve, and celebrate every time you accomplish one, which can slowly stimulate his enthusiasm for learning.
4. In addition, find a chance to have a good talk with your child and let him understand that there is no conflict between the college entrance examination and studying in Japan. The college entrance exam is actually a good opportunity to exercise, to develop self-discipline and stress resistance, and to lay the foundation for studying abroad in the future. If you don't work hard now, you may have regrets later.
5. Parents themselves should set a good example by adopting the habit of going to bed early and waking up early and studying continuously, so as to influence their children with practical actions.
Parents relax, as long as we are patient and persistent, our children will gradually come out of this cycle!
