Quarreled with your father after the midterm, sent a tweet to make peace but was mocked Teaching you how to resolve conflicts
Quarreled with your father after the midterm, sent a tweet to make peace but was mocked? Teaching you how to resolve conflicts
The midterm had just ended, and I had planned to sit down with my dad to talk about how I felt about the exam, order some small gifts on the way, and have a cozy Father's Day together in the evening.
But my dad doesn't listen to me at all and just criticizes me for everything I'm not. I took the initiative to send tweets to try to make up, but only received cold taunts, it is particularly difficult to do, what should I do?
Hi, how are you, my friend? I'm Fuji, the whale social worker.
First give you a warm hug ~~ I can feel your loss and aggression, sincere communication in exchange for accusations and ridicule, which is really hard to accept, especially from the father's response. Suggest you can try the following methods:
1. Analyze the father's criticism calmly.We need to understand that our father's words are not always right. If he criticizes you, he may be criticizing you for something you did not do well, but he does not have to take it at face value. Learn to distinguish between objective facts and emotional accusations. Accept the parts that are true and improve on them, but don't take it personally if it doesn't make sense.
2. Be proactive in expressing your feelings.Perhaps your father's intentions were good, but the way he counted and mocked you was not appropriate. Suggest that you find an opportunity to tell your father that you are genuinely trying to make up by sending the tweets, and explain that this response makes you sad, and that you hope he can communicate in a different way. This step may be a bit difficult, but after trying you will realize that the father is also a first time father and may not quite know how to express himself properly. We need to take care of our own emotions while being empathetic.All the best (whale social worker 🐋)
