Recently, I am looking for a job, but I always feel that my ability is not enough, and I have put in a lot of resumes, but they are all sinking. My mood is particularly depressed, and I even occasionally have thoughts of suicide, feeling that life has lost its meaning.
I really don't know what to do, and I often suspect that I am a liability to society and don't deserve to survive.
Does anyone have any practical solutions for this?
🍄Hi, after reading your question carefully, I can feel your positive desire to find a job and appreciate your proactive approach to solving the problem. I'm Shuya Qingzheng and I'd like to talk with you today about how to deal with your current predicament.
🍄1, accept the status quo first and find the right direction
The China National Mental Health Development Report (2019-2020) states that young people between the ages of 18 and 34 are the most anxious group of adults.
I think you're in that age bracket too, right? So it's especially understandable that you're feeling low, but even more so, kudos to you for being willing to take the initiative to adjust yourself.
Especially at the age of 18-25, which is often referred to in the academic world as the "early adulthood period", when we realize that we don't have much to rely on in front of us and we have to break through on our own; at the same time, the lack of a fixed direction, on the contrary, means that we can build our own path.
Psychologist Keniston has described young people of this age as having a "sense of pull between self and society" and a tendency "not to want to be fully socialized".
In fact, at this age, the advantage is very big, you can try more different jobs, of course, to maintain professional behavior, seriously treat the "rice bowl" Oh, slowly find the direction that suits you. Ability, can be enhanced through learning.
Martin Seligman, the founder of positive psychology, said, "Changing what can be changed and accepting what can't be changed is the smart way to live."
It's already courageous of you to be honest about your lack of ability. Now that you know the shortcomings, do you have the confidence to make adjustments and progress?
🍄2, improve yourself and be a better you!
01, I don't know if you are interested in learning some skills, such as hairdressing, computer repair and so on, starting from small things; or work part-time first to accumulate experience, from which you can discover your own strengths and interests.
Regardless of the industry, as long as we work seriously, more to the old colleagues to ask for advice, their own more feel, out of love and dedication to work attitude, I believe you will slowly be recognized.
02, spare time don't waste, develop a good habit of reading and studying, you will find yourself growing fast.
Recommend reading The Effective Manager, by [American] Peter Drucker.
The book says that managers don't have to be executives, and that everyone can manage themselves - for example, a soldier lost on the battlefield who has to make independent decisions about his actions is a manager because his choices affect the big picture.
So learn to manage your body, your time, your emotions and your behavior, OK?
Because sulking won't solve the problem, ability is not the key, the key is to do the right thing with your hands.
"Are Your Lights On? by [American] Donald Goss. This book teaches us to learn to put things in perspective instead of denying ourselves.
First figure out the nature of the problem, then determine who is going to fix it, then find the root cause of the problem, and finally decide whether to fix it or not.
After reading it, even the biggest puzzles can be disassembled and handled with ease.
🍄 the world and I love you, I hope this helps.
